A Heart Felt Apology Writing Prompt Week 9







 



In my lifetime I have made many mistakes. I spoke when I should have stayed silent, I have surrendered when I should have fought, and argued when I should have just walked away.  I have been humiliated, downtrodden, depressed and empty. There have been days in all these years that it took every fiber of my being just to find the will to stay in the world. 


I’m sure there  are many people in this world I owe an apology to, but today I’m focusing on one. I owe MYSELF a huge apology for so many things.  

  1. I am sorry for letting people mispronounce and misspell your name. You hated it and all the nicknames they tried to give you. It’s ok to correct them. ITS YOUR NAME. I will correct them EVERY time from now on. If they care, they will learn, if they don’t, then I will kindly tell them to keep their attempt at your name out of their mouth! 
  2. I am sorry for not telling your teacher in the 3rd grade that YES, you shriveled up cow, there are such a thing as BLACK angels, and it’s NOT ok for you to tear up her  contribution to the angel tree for the Christmas program. It would have totally been worth whatever trouble you would have gotten into. 
  3. I’m sorry for not taking better care of you. You deserved better.  
  4. I’m sorry for ever calling you ugly. You look like mom and she was beautiful. It’s ok to think that. God did that so she will always be with you.  
  5. I’m sorry for putting up with bullshit to keep peace. Peace is overrated. Sometimes war is necessary to bring about change. 
  6. I am sorry for trying to make you “Bloom where you’re planted.” That whole idea is BULLSHIT. I repot plants all the time so they have room to grow and when I don’t, they turn brown and shrivel up and die.  I apologize for expecting you to sprout buds when you weren’t getting what you needed. So many people just expect you to thrive when you’re not happy and I should have protected your joy more.  
  7. I’m sorry for putting everyone else ahead of you. I will no longer force you to live in the shadow of what someone else wants or would have wanted and will take the time to determine what you want and I promise WE WILL DO THAT.  So many times I have forced you to accept the apologies you deserve, but will never receive so I just want to make sure I am not on that list

I AM sorry and I hope one day you can accept this apology and forgive me.   Even if no one else ever sees it you are a good person and you deserve good things. Let’s go get them! 







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